Loss of Someone You Love!

The loss of someone you love is one of the most difficult situations to accept.

Realities of Life, sure hits you in the strangest of ways. This has been another one of the Realities that one has to deal with. There are questions that come up, but somehow , the right answer eludes you .. the why, how , if only ……

I contemplate & once again, wake up to living the present moment, a few facts hit home, big time.

So .. here goes!!!


Life is unpredictable

Just when you are ready to put your feet up & chill , Life shall throw another Bouncer at you….. to Test your Patience, your Strength, your Courage …. It’s upto you , to either hit that Sixer or get clean bowled!!!

You make it a point to look after and protect the ones you love, you make sure you are there for them always. However, if your loved one has to face a situation alone, that’s how it shall be, no matter how hard you try.

The person who gives a helping hand is a person you least expect to show up. The way I see it , your Unconditional Giving cannot go unanswered … it shall always come back to you, but in a way that you least expected!!!

There are no guarantee’s in Life. You can make a broad outline of your plans, but what eventually happens, is many a times, diverse & unplanned! Be Prepared!!!

Love

Say it, show it , Hug the tightest ever with every feeling & emotion you feel !You might not get a second chance…..

Time shall heal, but if there is no Love, the process shall take a real long route!


Zindagi chalne ka naam hai

Life shall never stop or take a pause …. There is always some place where the sun is shining, where the clock is going tick tock , the circle of life continues ….

Laughter

A good, hearty Laughter, from your complete being, is & shall always be the best medication that Life has to offer!

Keep Humour in your side pocket at all given times!!!

Tragedy

Tragedy sieves situations & circumstances, helps you to see things in the right perspective.

Tragedy sieves friends & family, to show you their true spunk & character.

Appreciation

Learn to Appreciate all that you are blessed with, make it a point to attest that appreciation…. That One Word might make the world of difference in someone’s life.

Sympathy

There is no room for sympathy in my books. Never feel sorry for yourself, Never sympathize or feel pity for another. Be the shoulder that can hold the tears, be the Rock solid support. Think of it as an engine that has stalled, all that it needs is a push , to get the engine’s running & u have a turbo engine… ready to Fly!!! Family & Friends will give you the jump start, rest shall be the person’s own effort.

Memories

What has gone cannot be replaced or come back. Make Memories your backbone , situations your Pillars & Strive forward …the new horizon beckons you.

Talk about the person, with friends, with family …. .. happy events, episodes that made you laugh , things that you did together … times when you wanted to kill each other …. All of it .. .. the memories should bring a smile in your heart with that tear in your eyes for the wonderful times you had …… not the regret for what never was … but for what you shared , even for the briefest moment! And that’s how the person remains a part of you forever…. In constant reminiscing ……

Regret

Do what your heart truly desires from time to time , leave no room for regrets of any kind & try to avoid doing things which might bring remorse. However difficult it is … try to live life as if it is the last day you have!!!

Album

We are all eventually faces in the album. We shall all go to another world soon enough, with our mug shots in an album, with our stories being told to the next generation!!!

Look at the bigger picture

Don’t focus your attention to one corner of the picture. Step Back & check out the complete framework.

The One Up There protects his own. Before any unseen mishap, the grooming & preparation process has begun , without your even realizing it. A process , that shall help you cope with the situation that you have been unceremoniously thrown into. Making sure you become Resilient, compelling you to bounce back.

Things could have been much worse than what they already are. Think up of another scenario which is worse than the present, & you shall feel blessed.

If you are given Pain, You are also given the determination & endurance to Face it.

Optimism

It can never get any worse than it already is, it can only get better.

Pain

One’s pain is one’s own, how you deal with it is your own struggle. A strong individual is one that makes this pain their fortitude, walks the untrodden path, with complete focus & perseverance ……. The sooner , The better!!

This is the moment , Now is the time!!!

Fear

Fear of tomorrow, Fear of the unseen is natural in all respects. However , the beauty really is, to just march forward. More than once, it might be your own shadow that scares you! Believe in Yourself….. that is the catch line & let no one ever take that conviction away from you!

Fear to face the person you love, who has lost someone or faces a very challenging situation, has to be conquered. These are the telling times, when you have to checkmate your own apprehension, when you learn more about your own self. That is life , your misgivings needs to be eliminated. You need to face the person & You might just be the person who they need to speak with!!


Presence

Just being there is enough at times. A one minute call, Sitting In a corner, A hug, A smile, a gift to cheer you. A presence that is felt …


Karma

I strongly believe , we are all here for a reason, & the people we meet, the situations we face, also are a part of that game plan. So, my policy is very clear. Might as well clear my karma's in this life time , so that i can move ahead towards the oblivion, without backtracking of any kind!!! Exacting emotion like Forgive & forget , also being a part of this …. Sighhhhhh!!!

Mind

Every emotion, every vision, every act , every situation is being play acted in the mind. It’s all in the Mind. We just have to take control of the Mind & not vice versa & Life is Set!

Birth & Death

Both are eventualities of Life, with the space between them remaining a blank, waiting to be filled by the individual in the best possible way!

Childhood

Do not take away the childhood of kids facing a paradoxical setting, let them be kids for as long as they can, they will grow up soon enough…

Kabir’s doha is the most apt for this mail:
Kaal Kare So Aaj Kar, Aaj Kare So UbPal Mein Pralaya Hoyegi, Bahuri Karoge Kub
Kick your backside, get up, walk, run, nothing last’s forever ….. Life is for Living!!!!

And last but not the least, my take on stress: I am too Blessed to be Stressed!!!

In a lot of ways, this is my tribute to the loved ones , who are wonderful memories today & to the One’s , who sailed through troubled times & are Winners!