My thoughts for the NEW YEAR !!!

Aloha everyone,

First n foremost , forgive me for being really lazy n sending a mail to all of u in one shot & not personalizing it , like I always do ….. but decided … it was 2007 ka end ….. n might as well get over the laziness & be ready for major action station in 2008!!!

2007 comes to an end, welcoming in its fold freshness of the new year!

A year which has in its own style given us all some major shocks, thrills, surprises….a variety of emotions…. Just about everything that makes the perfect bollywood masala hit Film!!! 

A year filled with its own trial & tribulations, of experience & wisdom. A year which as usual gave us something to carry forward & at the same time a whole lot which we need to leave behind ……….. a fresh beginning with just the goodness of this year added on !!!!

A year ready to throw us to another of its avatar called 2008, which will be, once again, a year of roller coaster of all kind of rides, with a hidden agenda at every corner just waiting to test How Cool We Are!!!

2008 a year full of Marvel, Love,Health, Happiness & Peace …. Is wot I expect for each and every one of you, the family , the extended families , & your friends too…. to receive!!!!

The very best always & A wonderful year Ahead of you!!

Cheers

We tend not to choose the unknown, which might be a shock or a disappointment or simply a little difficult to cope with. And yet it is the unknown with all its disappointments and surprises that is the most enriching.
     - Anne Morrow Lindbergh, 1906 - 2001

Whenever you see darkness, there is extraordinary opportunity for the light to burn brighter.

bahut hi zyada aram se Read karna ... itna effort jo humne kiya hai!!!

They always say time changes things,but you actually have to change them yourself.--- Andy Warhol

Time does not change , time waits for u to change yr perception ….  Time gives u that much Time to grow!!!

We can believe what we choose. We are answerable for what we choose to believe. ---John Henry Newman (1801-1890)
coz wot we belive becomes a part of us!!! Believe always n the positive n the best!!!!

The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.

And they sure have some war to fight!!!

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.------ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Andar ka LIGHT humesha ON rakhna!!!!

True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it is lost.----- Charles Caleb Colton    

Samhal kar rakhna … true friends don’t come easy!!!

You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.---Louise L. Hay

It is all n the MIND ….. use it well !!!

You have to know you can win. You have to think you can win. You have to feel you can win.---Sugar Ray Leonard

AND u shall WIN!!!!

The wisdom to know that all of our experiences in life make us not less valuable, but more valuable, not less able to love, but more able to love.

JUST plain n simple more Able ……

One ought to examine himself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others.---Moliere

Difficult ….. but well worth the effort!!!

In the mountain, stillness surges up to explore its own height; In the lake, movement stands still to contemplate its own depth.----     - Rabindranath Tagore, 1861 – 1941

Relax, take a step back …. N take a count of yr depth ….

I am one of those who never knows the direction of my journey until I have almost arrived.---     - Anna Louise Strong, 1885 – 1970

I am still on that journey … pata nahin manzil kahan hai!!;-)

Any road is bound to arrive somewhere if you follow it far enough.--     - Patricia Wentworth, 1878 – 1961

Itna patience bhi toh chahiye na … to follow thru a path that u have taken .. a never say never attitude!!!

To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot   and love him little.

To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.

HA HA HA HA!!

Do not pray for easy lives, pray to be stronger men! Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers, pray for powers equal to your tasks.--Phillips Brooks (1835-1893)

And Muscle power too .. pata nahin when u might need that too!!! ahem

Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.----- Richard Bach

Yr belief in yrself …. Wohi toh basic funda hai!!!!

Definition of an Irish husband:He hasn't kissed his wife for twenty years, but he will kill any man who does.

A double dose of laughter is this one … MEN!!!! ufffffffffffff

         

Chance can allow you to accomplish a goal every once in a while, but consistent achievement happens only if you love what you are doing.

--- Bart Conner

I love wot I am doing these days …. Wot shall I achieve during this sabbatical!!!

The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.---- William Arthur Ward, 1921 – 1994

Keep the inspiration working double time!!

If you don't read the newspaper you are uninformed,if you do read the newspaper you are misinformed.--- Mark Twain

Wot if u watch news on TV .. then wot??? … total confusion!!!??!!

In this trip, I’ve learned a very important lesson: your “family” is who you choose to hold in your heart, not necessarily those who share your bloodlines. 

Bahut Sahi!!!

Loving a child doesn’t mean giving in to all his whims; to love him is to bring out the best in him, to teach him to love what is difficult.--Nadia Boulanger (1887-1979)

Love for Karela …. Love for Palak, love for Maths ……….. J

If it is desirable that our children be kind, responsible, pleasant and honest, then those qualities must be taught--not hoped for.---James Dobson

Inspiring them wud b better teacher???

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.---     - Anaïs Nin, 1903 – 1977

Seena thok kar apna take kaho , dar kiska hai???

Everyone's got it in him, if he'll only make up his mind and stick at it. None of us is born with a stop-valve on his powers or with a set limit to his capacities, There's no limit possible to the expansion of each one of us.  - Charles M. Schwab, 1862 - 1939

Chart yr own path … stick to wot u decide on ….. make yr mind yr friend!!!

             
The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands.     - Alexander Penney

Hold hands , to make sure that u don’t slap each other ……. Oooopss …. Nah .. on a happy note …. Hold hands n go for a walk too!!!

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm.... As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.     - Audrey Hepburn

Use both ….. coz without one the other is of no use!!!

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, 'Wow, What a Ride!'--     - Hunter S. Thompson, 1937 – 2005

I have so many dents .. its amazing …. But I am still enjoying the Ride….  N wot a roller coaster it is!!!

The traveler was active; he went strenuously in search of people, of adventure, of experience. The tourist is passive; he expects interesting things to happen to him. He goes "sight-seeing".---     - Daniel Joseph Boorstin, 1914 – 2004

I was definitely a Traveller this trip of mine!!!!

What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity?Our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty,and every difficulty has an opportunity.--- J. Sidlow Baxter

Go for it Gungho!!!

To be a genuine individualist requires a great deal of strength and courage. It is never easy to chart new territory, to cross new frontiers, or to introduce subtle shadings to an established color.     - Toller Cranston

NEVER … ever is it easy ……….

Loss of Someone You Love!

The loss of someone you love is one of the most difficult situations to accept.

Realities of Life, sure hits you in the strangest of ways. This has been another one of the Realities that one has to deal with. There are questions that come up, but somehow , the right answer eludes you .. the why, how , if only ……

I contemplate & once again, wake up to living the present moment, a few facts hit home, big time.

So .. here goes!!!


Life is unpredictable

Just when you are ready to put your feet up & chill , Life shall throw another Bouncer at you….. to Test your Patience, your Strength, your Courage …. It’s upto you , to either hit that Sixer or get clean bowled!!!

You make it a point to look after and protect the ones you love, you make sure you are there for them always. However, if your loved one has to face a situation alone, that’s how it shall be, no matter how hard you try.

The person who gives a helping hand is a person you least expect to show up. The way I see it , your Unconditional Giving cannot go unanswered … it shall always come back to you, but in a way that you least expected!!!

There are no guarantee’s in Life. You can make a broad outline of your plans, but what eventually happens, is many a times, diverse & unplanned! Be Prepared!!!

Love

Say it, show it , Hug the tightest ever with every feeling & emotion you feel !You might not get a second chance…..

Time shall heal, but if there is no Love, the process shall take a real long route!


Zindagi chalne ka naam hai

Life shall never stop or take a pause …. There is always some place where the sun is shining, where the clock is going tick tock , the circle of life continues ….

Laughter

A good, hearty Laughter, from your complete being, is & shall always be the best medication that Life has to offer!

Keep Humour in your side pocket at all given times!!!

Tragedy

Tragedy sieves situations & circumstances, helps you to see things in the right perspective.

Tragedy sieves friends & family, to show you their true spunk & character.

Appreciation

Learn to Appreciate all that you are blessed with, make it a point to attest that appreciation…. That One Word might make the world of difference in someone’s life.

Sympathy

There is no room for sympathy in my books. Never feel sorry for yourself, Never sympathize or feel pity for another. Be the shoulder that can hold the tears, be the Rock solid support. Think of it as an engine that has stalled, all that it needs is a push , to get the engine’s running & u have a turbo engine… ready to Fly!!! Family & Friends will give you the jump start, rest shall be the person’s own effort.

Memories

What has gone cannot be replaced or come back. Make Memories your backbone , situations your Pillars & Strive forward …the new horizon beckons you.

Talk about the person, with friends, with family …. .. happy events, episodes that made you laugh , things that you did together … times when you wanted to kill each other …. All of it .. .. the memories should bring a smile in your heart with that tear in your eyes for the wonderful times you had …… not the regret for what never was … but for what you shared , even for the briefest moment! And that’s how the person remains a part of you forever…. In constant reminiscing ……

Regret

Do what your heart truly desires from time to time , leave no room for regrets of any kind & try to avoid doing things which might bring remorse. However difficult it is … try to live life as if it is the last day you have!!!

Album

We are all eventually faces in the album. We shall all go to another world soon enough, with our mug shots in an album, with our stories being told to the next generation!!!

Look at the bigger picture

Don’t focus your attention to one corner of the picture. Step Back & check out the complete framework.

The One Up There protects his own. Before any unseen mishap, the grooming & preparation process has begun , without your even realizing it. A process , that shall help you cope with the situation that you have been unceremoniously thrown into. Making sure you become Resilient, compelling you to bounce back.

Things could have been much worse than what they already are. Think up of another scenario which is worse than the present, & you shall feel blessed.

If you are given Pain, You are also given the determination & endurance to Face it.

Optimism

It can never get any worse than it already is, it can only get better.

Pain

One’s pain is one’s own, how you deal with it is your own struggle. A strong individual is one that makes this pain their fortitude, walks the untrodden path, with complete focus & perseverance ……. The sooner , The better!!

This is the moment , Now is the time!!!

Fear

Fear of tomorrow, Fear of the unseen is natural in all respects. However , the beauty really is, to just march forward. More than once, it might be your own shadow that scares you! Believe in Yourself….. that is the catch line & let no one ever take that conviction away from you!

Fear to face the person you love, who has lost someone or faces a very challenging situation, has to be conquered. These are the telling times, when you have to checkmate your own apprehension, when you learn more about your own self. That is life , your misgivings needs to be eliminated. You need to face the person & You might just be the person who they need to speak with!!


Presence

Just being there is enough at times. A one minute call, Sitting In a corner, A hug, A smile, a gift to cheer you. A presence that is felt …


Karma

I strongly believe , we are all here for a reason, & the people we meet, the situations we face, also are a part of that game plan. So, my policy is very clear. Might as well clear my karma's in this life time , so that i can move ahead towards the oblivion, without backtracking of any kind!!! Exacting emotion like Forgive & forget , also being a part of this …. Sighhhhhh!!!

Mind

Every emotion, every vision, every act , every situation is being play acted in the mind. It’s all in the Mind. We just have to take control of the Mind & not vice versa & Life is Set!

Birth & Death

Both are eventualities of Life, with the space between them remaining a blank, waiting to be filled by the individual in the best possible way!

Childhood

Do not take away the childhood of kids facing a paradoxical setting, let them be kids for as long as they can, they will grow up soon enough…

Kabir’s doha is the most apt for this mail:
Kaal Kare So Aaj Kar, Aaj Kare So UbPal Mein Pralaya Hoyegi, Bahuri Karoge Kub
Kick your backside, get up, walk, run, nothing last’s forever ….. Life is for Living!!!!

And last but not the least, my take on stress: I am too Blessed to be Stressed!!!

In a lot of ways, this is my tribute to the loved ones , who are wonderful memories today & to the One’s , who sailed through troubled times & are Winners!