Choices......

One has to make choices. Sometimes what you know is right, some you go along coz of your gut instinct, some are spontaneous, some coz other people depend on the choice you make.

 

One cannot walk away from making a choice, however simple or difficult,  or simply, one that you abhor. You make the best choice as per the demand of the situation and wait for the chain reaction.

 

At times you pay a heavy price, but at the end of it all, the choice was yours & yours alone. A similar situation with another setting would get you to make choices completely diverse from your previous. Once again the choice would be yours.

 

Choices depend on you, circumstances, your loved ones. There can never be any getting away from making choices. You are only human, born to make one choice amongst the many. And once the choice is made, no complain, irrespective of the  the repercussions ….. good, bad ,or ugly. Let go, once the choice is made & never fear about the choice you have made. Fear, negative energy, stress….  Leave the Negativity & move towards Positivity. Take control, never give up, and do not look back, the universe is your playground.

 

You want to say something, but cannot. You feel something, but cannot express. You want to do something but cannot initiate . Fear of rejection, or is it deep ego which stops one from making the Choice? Whatever it may be, break free from shackles, Live the moment, you might never get another chance. Take the plunge & make that Choice which is the best , without any remorse!

 

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.  If it changes your life, let it.  Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

 

A Process!!

Stranger v/s Friends

It is Natural ... or did I cultivate it .... guess it is a blend of both!! To make friends, to be able to speak with a stranger as if i have known them for the longest time, is so easy! No effort !

Simple logic to this is .... a Stranger might one day become your best friend !! A Stranger could be the one who will be there in your hour of need, just coz you befriended them in the most effortless style!!

And like they say , at times the people who you think are your Friends, a situation shall arrive and you will wonder  .... is that my friend who i have known for the longest time , or is that a Stranger ??

And so, I would like Stranger to become my Friend & Friends to remain Friends Forever!!!

Forgive v/s Forget

I was asked by a friend, why do u always says , Forgive & Move on ..... isn't that incomplete without Forget ... don't people usually say ... Forgive and Forget!!??

Well, first and foremost , both are difficult to achieve . Takes a lot of working on. And in my books, Forgive is very very important in out lives, helps one to Move on!! To forgive yourself & to forgive another. One needs to Forgive oneself, for having hurt someone , knowingly or unknowingly. And once you forgive yourself for the anger, hurt, regret .... it just becomes so much easier to Forgive another, and forgive another, one does!!

And now to...  Forget. I would rather not Forget a situation. It is that situation which has brought about its own wisdom, it's own learning. If I Forget, then I might make the same faux pas , and i would not like to repeat the same again.! A reminder of sorts .... in some corner of my memory!

Therefore, I forgive as easily as I can, however difficult ......... but do dot Forget !!! To make sure that every situation is a valuable lesson learnt, a situation which only makes me stronger & not bitter!:-)

Forgive , and let go of the hurt … the scar ………

Scars

Some say, when one is hurt, the scars remain, as a constant reminder of the pain ………..

However, when one does look at the broader picture, are scars really a reminder of the pain???

Hurt is Wound, Wound is Pain & the more we keep scraping, the deeper is the bruise, never  healing, a constant reminder. A person or a situation can hurt you just once, but reliving it, means you are traumatizing yourself twice as much, again & again. Why should anyone do that to oneself? That's why, one has to Let Go ....

We scrape , not letting that healing layer to be formed, giving us perverse pleasure in this pain, not letting it heal coz if it did heal, how would one feel sorry for oneself? To torture yourself like this again & again, is truly tragic.  Heal & its time to let go.

Scars will be reminder of the anguish only when we do not give the affliction a chance to heal. Layers sealing themselves, until it heals completely, once mended, it isn't a wound, it is a scar, faint & at times invisible  ……… a reminder, of a pain that's gone, a wound which  has healed.

The way I know life .... To every End there is a Beginning, to every Pause, there is a Play button waiting to be hit!

"Forgiveness" , write up by Mac Anderson! Loved it!

Our emotions are powerful motivators, and more than almost anything else in our lives they will drive our behavior. Sometimes our greatest challenge is to get inside our own heads to understand what makes us tick. Why do we feel and behave the way we do?

I know two family members who were best of friends, but several years ago, one reminded the other of something that had happened thirty years earlier. One thing led to another and, you know what, they haven't spoken since.

 "Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the handcuffs of hate."

Those are powerful words, and I know from personal experience...forgiveness works. A few times in my life I've been greatly wronged and taken advantage of. My first reaction, of course, was anger and resentment. I held it for awhile and felt my stomach tie up in knots, my appetite wane, and the joy slip out of my life.

The quote from Ward provided the wake-up call I needed to forgive the person who had wronged me. It was like I had been playing the first half of a basketball game with three-pound steel shoes, and in the locker room the coach said, "Mac, try these new Nikes in the second half." Multiply that by ten and you'll understand how great it feels to unload your "emotional baggage" through the power of forgiveness.

Life is too short to stay angry...even for a day.
"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future."

 

By Mac Anderson.

Dreamer v/s Doubter

This article is from Simple Truths by M.Anderson ... not sure wether he wrote it or was written by someone else ... however ... this sure is one eye opener!!!
 
My take as usual .... Ask ..... n Ask again .... till u get a reply/ answer .. maximum ... u shall get an answer which isnt wot u wanted to hear , but u got an answer .... n this is the only way u can also get the answer to wot u have been looking for !!! Be a DREAMER ( I wasnt called Dreamer n school for nothing !! ) .... n listen to the advice of the DOUBTER.... perfect combination!!!!
 
Cheers ...

Dreamer v/s Doubter

There are many different aspects that live inside of us and two of them I respectfully dubbed the Dreamer and Doubter. When it comes to pursuing our dreams, The Dreamer is often gung ho while the Doubter can provide a laundry list of concerns and issues.

After a speech in Rome, a woman with a beautiful accent asked me to tell her one of my personal dreams. Assuming I'd never see her again, I decided to share a dream I had never spoken out loud, one I had kept such a good secret that even I was beginning to forget it.
"My dream is to spend the summer writing in the Greek Islands," I said all in one breath.
She handed me her card and replied, "I have a villa in Greece. Why don't you come as my guest?"

I was floored and reminded that amazing things happen when we share our dreams. I was elated, or more accurately, part of me was. Here's a peek inside my head. See if this kind of interchange sounds familiar.
 
Dreamer: I am so excited!
Doubter: Not me. I don't like this at all. It's far away and could be dangerous.
Dreamer: Nonsense. This is my dream handed to me on a silver platter.
Doubter/Realist (they're close cousins): Who is going to run your business while you're away?
Dreamer: My fabulous team whom I completely trust.
Doubter: Well, how's it going to look to your clients that you are out of the country for three months?
Dreamer: I think as a Dream Coach, it's going to look pretty good.

When you are stuck, procrastinating or worrying, chances are your Doubter has taken over. If ignored, it can sabotage your dreams. So how do you deal with it? Turn the volume down a notch and the Doubter simply becomes the Realist, the part that wants to know where the time and money will come from for your venture.

But before you turn down the Doubter, hear from it. It will give you valuable information such as a list of obstacles that you can manage later. Freedom comes as you appreciate its wisdom and insight rather than judging it as the enemy.

If you never deal with your doubt and you meet another Doubter on the road, their doubt will magnify yours. However, if you have worked with your own doubt, next time a Doubter challenges you, by contrast it will be the opportunity to deepen your commitment and conviction to your dream.

The true joy in life, is being used for a purpose, recognized by yourself as a Mighty One, being a True Force of nature instead of a feverish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy…..
I want to be thoroughly used up when I die….For the harder I work, the more I live….I rejoice in life for its own sake….
Life, is no brief candle to me, it's a splendid torch, which I've got to hold up for the moment, and, I want to make it burn as brightly as possible, before handing it on to the future generations!!!!!

Friends & Friendship!

Friendship is a foundation to any relationship. Everyone has their own take on friends & friendship ..... here are some of mine & everyone is free to add there oneliner's to keep this moving ....... a Toast to Friends !
 
A true friend is a person with a sneaky knack of saying good things about you & always , always , defending you , behind your back. That's a different issue, ki samne aaye, toh, the same friend, shall tear you to shreds for your smallest falling, making it into your biggest drawback!!!:-)
 
A true friend is always around you, protecting you, no matter what. That's a different issue, ki kabhi kabhi aapko aisa lagta hai ,ki your friend has left your hand! It's called the invisible touch!! Ahem!
 
A true friend shall always maintain a certain formality, in that formality is the true test of friendship. That is a different issue, ki waqt milne paar , the same formality becomes the least forgotten!!
 
A true friend communicates without communicating. That's a different issue , ki aapki friendship main kitna dum hai to understand that!
 
A true friend shall always respect your privacy. That's a different issue, ki that shall be thrown in the air for that masti bhari shaam & jaam!!!
 
A true friend shall never let hearsay affect the truth that binds friendship. That's a different issue, ki kabhi kabhi suni sunayi batein, dimaag ka dahi bana deti hain!!!
 
A true friend will find humour in the most tense situations. That is a different issue , ki uske baad you might get beaten up for the same!!!
 
A true friend believes in the faith , in the truth of the trust, in the endurance of strength, as the foundation of friendship. That's a diffferent issue, ki all this is possible only when there is Respect!

 

A true friend will have the courage to stand through the test of times. That's a different issue, ki jab woh miltain hain, time stands still & conversations flow !

 

A true friend shall apologize without thinking about who is right & who is wrong. That's a different issue, ki you will never hear the end of it , if one is right!!!

 
And so it continues … the beauty of friendship ………..

New Year Cheers 2009

Another year whizzes past ... where did it go ??? pata hi nahin chala ...

 

A year which came in with its trials n tribulations & zipped along with a whole load of sense , sensibility & patience , with a wisdom of one who has seen umpteen years go by , just like the old man with white flowing white hair, long beard n robes , who symbolizes Time!

 

Retirement has taken a complete new meaning for me .... retirement means Time flies & Thats that!!! And I love this pace which is so Brisk at its slowest best !!!

 

A year which left a few loved ones behind & gained new ones. A year of Facebook which connects me in one way or another & linked me to friends who had become more than a distant memory. A year where a school reunion reminded me of what euphoria really means when u reconnect with your long lost friends.A year, which again reinforced, the strength & love ,yr family & friends bestow upon you.

 

Wish you all Unconditional Love, Fortitude to Forgive , Strength to bear the loss of a loved one , Health & Happiness.

 

2009 will turn another page in our lives .... The Best is still to Happen!!!

 

Cheers & Best Wishes for another year which brings with it, its own puzzle waiting to be solved!!!

 

Love always!

 

 

 

 

 

Yadein,its a Date .....

Yadein, Yadein, bas Yadein reh jati hain .....

 

In Life there is Death & in Death there is Life!

 

All is a question of one's own perception of Life & Death!!!

 

Life, beyond Compare , a world full of its own Endeavors.

 

Death, a Reality, which always hits us with its Abruptness.

 

In Life we create Relationships & Memories. The true essence shall come forth , once you leave this life. One person , or a few , reminiscing about You, shall still have the capacity to touch their Lives, who shall think of you with love, repect & memory, which brings a Smile in their Heart !!!!

 

It's a date ... It's a date with birth, death .... a date with its own significance, a date that shall not let you forget......

 

At Birth, celebration is a reminder , of another passing year , which has been full of expereince and wisdom. A festivity , which contiues to establish memoirs.

 

In Death, celebrations , which honor a Lifetime of Recollections.

 

Dates shall always be Memento's, with every date , a new memory shall emerge, leaving the past behind to be taken over by the present.

 

Make me live in your Memories..... after all ,It is a Date!!!!

 

And a perfect rejoinder to this is a Poem by an Aunt, Jeenoma ( as i promised , yr poem is a part of my blog!!:-)

 

If there is Peace within yourself ..........There is room for another Mind.
Like a child you have Innocence.....
You have a Smile....

You have an Enthusiasm ..........
You have the Spirit......
You have the Honesty......
and a Child lives in You ............
Live that Child hidden in you today..........