Expectations!!!!!

Expectation is the mother of all disappointments, And Reality is the Father.

This was a comment made by a friend, which got me thinking .. so here goes..

 

Why do we expect?

Is expectation positive or negative?

How do you overcome the disappointment of expectation?

Does Reality negate expectation completely?

Does Expectation lead to Manipulation?

Expectation is a part & parcel of Us, no matter who the Parents are!!! :-)

 

When your expectation becomes a contention of a relationship, specially when you value that relationship, its best to try and accommodate yourself to the expectation of the other too, so as not to hurt the other coz of your expectation ( quite a mind mender!!:-)

 

However, some day, if your relationship in its own standing has the strength, the understanding, respect & trust, the expectation will be met , coz then it is the expectation that becomes a healthy part of the relationship , which both will work out, which becomes a foundation of a lovely relationship.

 

We expect only when we feel the other is capable, and most times the other wants to avoid the expectation coz  they feel threatened , scared that they might not be able to live up to that expectation. A tragic situation, coz expectations are only formed when you trust someone!! We expect, coz we automatically Presume that the other person will understand what we mean, that they are in sync with our thinking. Which does not hold true always & that's again a situation, we just need to accept & acknowledge ( and continue to expect with a new line of think tank!!! ).

 

And then comes the point of manipulation. Are we manipulating, such that our expectation comes through, although the other person might not really have the same expectation from their own life. Are we in some way hampering their growth because of our expectations???? Sighhhhhhhhhhhhh ….. kya pagalpan hai yeh?

 

To give someone another chance is expectation, to let the past not interfere in the present is expectation, to let silence speak a thousand words is expectations, to be there when another wants to vent out anger, emotions, needs to simply talk , that's expectations, to care without pretence is expectations, not treat another's care for pretence is expectations, not to expect is expectations, to simply be there for another is expectation,to expect from yourself is expectations, to release yourself from any expectation is expectation. Any relation without some form of expectation will have a small but integral part of the foundation missing!!!!!!

 

Cheers to the True & Right essence of Expectationsssssssssssss !!!!!!