As I have Matured .....

 As I've Matured...   

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is
stalk them and hope they panic and give in... ;-)

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it…… how sad is that …..

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just
jackasses….. n just do not deserve my concern ….eeshhh!!

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others -
they are more screwed up than you think…. Be yrself , u cant be wrong abt that ever…. 

 I've learned that depression is merely anger without enthusiasm…. Throw that too in the air!!

I've learned that it is not what you wear; it is how you take it off…. With patience n simply.. 

I've learned that you can keep vomiting long after you think you're finished… this is a think tank… 

I've learned that I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy it…. I truly do, sanity resides in Insanity!! 

I've learned that artificial intelligence is no match for natural
stupidity…. There is such intelligence in that too… 

I've learned that 99% of the time when something isn't working
in your house, one of your kids did it… Blame it on the kids .. uffff

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon and
all the less important ones just never go away.
And the real pains in the ass are permanent… Life is such .. kya karein!!!     

Anger

Morning time, a cup of chai & checking out all the newsical masala circulating around us, I read a few lines of Osho.

Can’t remember the exact words, but it did hit bull’s eye on Anger!!!

Osho says, that you should throw Anger into the Cosmos instead of throwing it at one another. When you are angry with someone and you throw your anger at him, it creates a chain reaction. Now he too will be angry. This may continue for the longest time. How does one end it? There is only one possibility. You can end it only in meditation (calming your mind, basically), nowhere else, because in meditation you are not angry with someone: you are simply angry & you need to release this anger. Throw this adverse energy into the cosmos. Emotions move into the cosmos, and the cosmos purifies everything. Like a dirty river falling into the ocean, the ocean will purify it, similarly, the cosmos is so vast and so great an ocean, it purifies all negative energy, you cannot make it dirty.

In my books, this is so relevant. While we were growing up & got Angry, we were asked to count 1-10 backyards, or to go and spend ½ hour alone in our room, to take boxing gloves & hit a punching bag with all our might …… I remember a cousin, who very nearly cracked a wall in the house coz he would throw the football with all his strength on the wall to curb his anger!!!! We were made to do this, to calm us down …. To make sure we didn’t say something wrong, which would be hurtful to the other person or out of line, which would be nothing short of back answering. This, in its own, was a way of releasing the anger onto the cosmos, instead of on someone!!! (Remember the scene in Life in a Metro, where Irfan Khan asks Konkona Sen to dispel all her anger & she screams till she is completely sapped out of all the negativity!!! )

But then again, productive Anger, which does not hurt someone, but gets your point across is important too!!! (after all ,one doesn’t want anyone to take advantage of us!!!), aab , Geeta main bhi likha hai, to hurt someone is bad, to endure injustice is worse!!! Say your piece and move on!!!

Just seething with Anger, without knowing the correct picture, or even releasing the same into the cosmos, is not warranted, coz when the correct scenario comes your way, one would end up feeling truly anguished!!! So, basically, the cosmos can’t help purify what you create in your mind, that, one has to do themselves!!!!

Sometimes you see things happen right in front of your eyes and still jump to the wrong conclusion. Or, you can believe in something real hard and still be wrong. …. Because u don’t know any better.

Anger is truly an inherent quality of every human being, like every other emotion’s that we are blessed with. Repression( with focus on revenge or because of lack of one’s own confidence) of Anger is no solution, it cannot be. Anger creates a circle which continues to thrive with the animosity that we hurl at each other!!!  A never ending story of Hate feeding on rage of all sorts!!! Where one loses complete control & becomes blinded, to emotions & any form of reasoning!!!

Let it go ….. throw it into the Cosmos!!! Let Cosmos Purify the Anger into Love, Peace & Happiness!!! Laughter is the true essence of positive energy!!!

Keep Smiling !!! (it will make the other person wonder what you are upto!!! J)

wisdom

AUM has three sounds. Those who meditate on A Come back to earth, led by the Rig Veda,To lead a pure life, full of faith and love.
Those who meditate on the first two sounds,A and U, led by the Yajur Veda,Go to the lunar world, full of pleasure,From which they come back cloyed to earth again.But those who meditate on A, U, and M Are led by the Sama chants to the sun,Where freed from sin, as a snake sheds its skin,They see the supreme Lord, who lives in all.-Prashna Upanishad

The one original transcendent Shakti, the Mother stands above all the worlds and bears in her eternal consciousness the Supreme Divine. Alone, she harbors the absolute Power and the ineffable Presence; containing or calling the Truths that have to be manifested, she brings them down from the Mystery in which they were hidden into the light of her infinite consciousness and gives them a form of force in her omnipotent power and her boundless life and a body in the universe. -Sri Aurobindo

Human relationships

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

 

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

 

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

 

       The husband just said 'I am with you Darling'

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

 

            I have no clue if this story is true or not, but methinks the human relationship has been brought out beautifully!!!

 

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be fewer problems in the world. A journey of a thousand miles begins, with a single step. Erase envy, jealousy, selfishness, fears…. Forgive easily, and one will find things are actually not as difficult as they think.

     

Isn’t it a fact that most time we spend, is in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know & miss out the warmth in human relationship. If only we started taking responsibility for our own faux pas…. Life would be as simple as we want it to be!!!! Learn to Laugh at yourself …. Learn to Love yourself… Learn to Forgive yourself!!!!!

 

 

For this weekend!!!!

You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself. - Ethel Barrymore, 1879 – 1959

How often is it that we actually laugh at our own stupidity??? Our own faux pas ….

Life does not cease to be funny when people die any more than it ceases to be serious when people laugh.  - George Bernard Shaw, 1856 – 1950

Life never stops , in sadness we discover laughter & in laughter we see the pain!!!

Men show their character in nothing more clearly than by what they think laughable. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, 1749 – 1832

To laugh is an art too … galat waqt par haas diya toh beta be prepared for some repercussions!!!!

Against the assault of laughter, nothing can stand.  - Mark Twain, 1835 – 1910

U bet ….  Nothing against a good from the core laughter , like nothing against the smile of a baby!!!

Whenever you see darkness, there is extraordinary opportunity for the light to burn brighter. -Bono

Have u seen how absolutely gorgeous the moon looks n the light that emits in the forest/ mountain land where there is complete darkness??? Darne walle dar sakten hain .. the romantics … well .. this is where u shud be!!;-)

That devotee who looks upon friend and foe with equal regard, who is not buoyed up by praise nor cast down by blame, alike in heat and cold, pleasure and pain, free from selfish attachments, the same in honor and dishonor, quiet, ever full, in harmony everywhere, firm in faith--such a one is dear to me. -Bhagavad Gita 12:18-19

 Kafi mushkil mamla hai …however , that wudnt stop one from trying…..

Envy can be a positive motivator. Let it inspire you to work harder for what you want.-Robert Bringle

Grrrrrrrrrr ….. owners pride, neibhours envy ……  time to change the equation , eh??

If you are going through hell...keep going.-Winston Churchill

Might as well chk out wot come yr way at the end of it …….

It is true the body is perishable, but within it dwells the imperishable Self. This body is subject to pleasure and pain; no one who identifies with the body can escape from pleasure and pain. But those who know they are not the body pass beyond pleasure and pain to live in abiding joy.-Chandogya Upanishad

You reside in the Body & not vice versa …. Do not give the body more importance than it deserves …… wish we learnt to accept how we look …. N not go for all the tucks, face jobs , eh all … after all …. The body shall perish …. It’s the soul that shall remain intact … the memories u leave behind that shall remain for the longest time!!!!

Before you speak, ask yourself, is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence?-Sai Baba

Bahut jyada bhi na sochna ... warna .. considering this practical life we lead .. bolti band ho jayegi!!!! Ahem!

 

He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.-Benjamin Franklin

Mastery always comes naturally To the man who is wise And who loves himself.-Ashtavakra Gita 18:41

Do I love myself … or do I love myself!!!:-)

As a crystal reflects objects that are nearby,So does the face reflect what is foremost in the heart.
What is more perceptive than the face? For whether the heart Is angry or glad, it is the face that expresses it first.-Tirukkural 71:706-707

U can try putting a mas , however, it ain’t easy… consider keeping a straight face when one has laughter in your being!!!smile toh aa hi jayega!!!;-)

 Jesters do often prove prophets.     - William Shakespeare, 1564 – 1616

Kabhi Kabhi insaan masaq main bahut kuch geharayi ki baat kehe jaten hain ….. it takes much more than intelligence to be a Jester!!!

We tend not to choose the unknown, which might be a shock or a disappointment or simply a little difficult to cope with. And yet it is the unknown with all its disappointments and surprises that is the most enriching.    - Anne Morrow Lindbergh, 1906 - 2001

A lifetime of Mysteries , I say …………

The only certain thing about the future is that it will surprise even those who have seen furthest into it.    - Eric Hobsbawm

Surprised by the surprise of the surprise of the future!!!!

If you have one eye on yesterday, and one eye on tomorrow, you’re going to be cockeyed today.

Ha ha ha ha … I loved this one .. Immediate Focus required… warna … it cud also be , kahin pe nigahen, kahin pe nishana!!!!;-)

It is the highest form of self-respect to admit our errors and mistakes and make amends for them. To make a mistake is only an error in judgment, but to adhere to it when it is discovered shows infirmity of character.      - Dr. Dale E. Turner

Sorry toh agrez apne liye rakh kar gaye hain, utilize it to the max .. however, one had better Mean it too!!!!

Get your facts first and then you can distort them as much as you wish. Mark twain

That’s what make a good Lawyer … wot say u all????

We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.

What would life be without the tapestry of life that join us all in one thread!!!

There are two ways of meeting difficulties: You alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them.

Easy would be to alter your view of a situation ………. hummmm

Everyman is an architect of his own future!!! Sallust

The rest are merely the Help …. The eventual end result is your very own creation!

When you get to the end of all the light you know and it's time to step into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing that one of two things shall happen: either you will be given something solid to stand on, or you will be taught how to fly.     - Edward Teller, 1908 – 2003

Abhi taak toh I have just had the solid ground, when am I going to fly?????

Begin today! No matter how feeble the light, let it shine as best it may. The world may need just that quality of light which you have.     - Henry C. Blinn

Its twinkle twinkle little stars time … light from all  make our life so Bright!!!

The trouble with resisting temptation is it may never come your way again.-Korman’s law

If Adam & Eve hadn’t eaten the fruit , we woudn’t have been here!!!!

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.-– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Its like we are thinking of people, situations…. N all of that , but how often is it that we actually & truly think of what we want???

Talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see.--- Arthur Schopenhauer

Wonder what one wud say about someone hitting your head …….

We love those who know the worst of us and don't turn their faces away.-- Walker Percy

Poor guys are so taken aback, that they just cant even if they want to …… aisa bhi hota hai!!!???

Both optimists and pessimists contribute to our society. The optimist invents the airplane and the pessimist the parachute.     - Gil Stern

We cant survive without either …. Jai ka coin kaam nahin ayega!!!!

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Action is warranted at all times!!!

You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

No kindness is too soon , no kindness too small, kindness is always selfless n filled with Love!!!

I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate.  ---George Burns

I, for one wud love to be a success at that wot I Love !!!!!! No two ways around it!!!

When I hear somebody sigh that Life is hard, I am always tempted to ask, "Compared to what?"--- Sydney J. Harris  

So am I, So am I!!!???!!!

People may fail many times, but they become failures only when they begin to blame someone else.

And that is human nature to blame it on a person , a situation ……. Sigh!!!!

Does anything change?

I have been asking myself, if things around you really change?

While walking with Ruchi, she very aptly put it, “ Didi, things never change”!!! And we both understood the space she was coming from.

When one does give this a thought, we do realize, whatever might be the situation we are faced with, the surrounding around us remains the same. We expect things to change, we think they have changed, our perception of our surrounding is what really changes, however, things actually remain same. That is why one says, Life moves On!!

Look around you, everyone is going about their activity without a pause. Do we really know what makes them tick? Do we know if they are happy, sad, stressed ? What emotional turmoil they are going through?

For the third eye, everything is normal, a regular everyday life. But ask an individual about his feeling at that moment & one just might hear a completely different story to the one we might have envisioned about them.

According to the frame of mind that they are in, Individuals create their surrounding. One’s own mood is the one that changes things. When you have time in your hand, the red signal will not upset you, but change that & you are is a rush, the red signal will have you seething!!! Things are the same, your situation is what made it look different!!!

If one is sad , the entire world looks bleak to me, if one is happy, one hears the birds chirping, the rustle of the leaves …..

Did the world really change?? Day & Night happens, Seasons change, People continue with their routine, the Day begins just the way it did yesterday ….. Every thing remains the way it is!!!!!

Which brings me back to my favourite line ……….. it is all in the  Mind …….. it Creates ….. it Destroys ……… its all in the Mind ….

my take!!!!!!!

"Obstacles cannot crush me, every obstacle yields to stern resolve.He, who is fixed to a star does not change his mind."--- Leonardo da Vinci

 Resolve that makes things Happen!!!

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer….-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Just like me!!;-)

"Realize that if you have time to whine and complain about something, then you have the time to do something about it."

--- Anthony D'Angelo

So go on .. do something …. anything .. as long as it aint the whining ….

One ought every day at least, to hear a little song, read a good poem, see a fine picture, and, if it were possible, to speak a few reasonable words……Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Or start a BLOG!! Ahem …

You can't make anything idiot proof because idiots are so ingenious.-- Ron Burns

That’s why Idiot is such an important word , I say………….

Don’t let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life…Relationships work best when they are balanced.

Balance .. the key word for any n every thing!!

When you keep saying you are busy,then you are never free.

When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time.

When you keep saying you will do it tomorrow,then your tomorrow will never come.

Tomorrow anywhichcase never does come .. does it???

Praise cannot exist without blame; it has no existence without its opposite…… Hazrat Inayat Khan

And how wud we appreciate  if we didn’t have a comparison???

People naturally fear misfortune and long for good fortune, but if the distinction is carefully studied, misfortune often turns out to be good fortune and good fortune to be misfortune. The wise man learns to meet the changing circumstances of life with an equitable spirit, being neither elated by success nor depressed by failure…     - Siddhartha Gautama, 563 - 483 BC

Elated by success … at times .. yes … but depressed by failure …. NEVER!!!

Those who danced were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music….. - Angela Monèt

Can u blame me for being the only one who Laughs in any movie …..

If you want to take your mission in life to the next level, if you're stuck and you don't know how to rise, don't look outside yourself. Look inside. Don't let your fears keep you mired in the crowd. Abolish your fears and raise your commitment level to the point of no return, and I guarantee you that the Champion Within will burst forth to propel you toward victory….     - Bruce Jenner

& How ….

Fine Tuning: Like you do in a radiostation, In spiritual;ity, fine tuning towards awareness & then slowly tune to the self, till you catch the correct frequency!!!

 Frequency ko capture karna bhi itna aasan nahin hai….

A sculpture was asked “How do you carve a beautiful statue out of a bare piece of Rock”. He replied ‘That beautiful image is already contained in the Rock. I simply remove the unnecessary pieces.’

Remove unnecessary & undesirable; Retain, Cultivate, & develop desirable; Learn to Adjust & Adapt.

Love is Bondage; Trust is Love!!!

I wish everyone that Love …. That Trust ….

To cultivate & develop, not only Faith but Trust, not only Trust but Strength, not only Strength but Wisdom, not only Wisdom but Understanding, not only Understanding but also Awareness!!!

Awareness of the all the leads to this Awareness!!!